This week, on "How Absurd Can We Get" Featuring Locked profiles and Matt K - Episode - Bigger Man? No. The Honest One.

The Bigger Man? No. The Honest One.

You know what I’ve had enough of?

This bullshit narrative that being the “bigger person” means staying silent when you’re attacked. That you’re supposed to just breathe it out, bless them, and walk away.

That “calling people out” is somehow unspiritual.

That exposing real behavior is ego, but being complicit in enabling it? That’s apparently “love and light.”

Let me ask you something real:

How the hell does anything ever change when we protect the patterns instead of calling them out?

Because that’s what happened to me. I was attacked in a community after standing up and speaking truth. After helping people—thousands of them—break free from the twin flame deception. I gave, I shared, I brought clarity. And the second the message didn’t please the mob?

They turned on me.

I was the one who was betrayed.

But I was made out to be the villain.

The moment I defended myself? I was the problem.

Not the cowards.

Not the ones stirring the pot behind locked profiles.

Not the admin who folded under pressure.

Me.

And then a man named Matt—who wasn’t even part of the community, who didn’t know what happened—had the audacity to come in, jump on the post, and try to psychoanalyze me like he’s some kind of spiritual authority.

So this post?

This is the line in the sand.

This is the exposure of the fake peacekeepers. The ones who hide behind “healing” while swinging swords behind their backs.

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Here’s the post that started it all:

> “Locked profiles, the digital mask of the inauthentic. They’ll tell you it’s about security. ‘I’ve been hacked. I’ve been broken into. I need to protect myself.’ But let’s be real—having a locked profile doesn’t stop hackers, doesn’t stop break-ins, and sure as hell doesn’t stop them from creeping around, lurking in spaces they don’t belong.

They move like ghosts—watching, judging, but never exposing anything real. They want the engagement, they want the controversy, but the moment the crowd turns? They flip. The ultimate people-pleasers. No backbone, no loyalty, just bending wherever the wind blows.

Like this admin from Twin Flames Souls Journey—stood behind me, told me I could post, share, bring the conversation. She wanted the fire, the engagement, the energy. But the second her members turned on me? She folded like a cheap chair. No integrity. No spine. Just another weak-ass, two-faced fraud.

And of course, the moment I start defending myself, I’m the villain. Her members attack me, but suddenly, they’re the victims? That’s the game. Fake outrage. Mob mentality. Pretending to be wounded while they’re the ones throwing the punches. And the admin? She just follows the crowd, no accountability, no sense of right or wrong—just whatever keeps her in good standing with the people she’s afraid of losing.

And let’s talk about her—a straight-up psycho. Hiding behind a fake identity, playing puppet master, stirring the pot while keeping herself protected. Meanwhile, I have a real identity. I stand behind my words, my name, my presence. And I’m tempted as hell to expose exactly who she is, because these people think they can play in the dark forever.

But that’s the difference between them and me. I don’t hide. I don’t run. I don’t play both sides.

A locked profile is a locked heart. A locked heart is a prison.

And if you’re living like that… are you even really living?

So go lock your profile, make up excuses because you’re in fear. None of them are valid. You want to protect yourself from the public. Or if you're looking for a job again, you're just hiding from yourself. It's no excuse at all.

You’ll find many of them in twin flame communities like Twin Flame Souls Journey by The Starry Shya.”

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Then comes Matt.

He comments:

> “A thousand projections in this post. Maybe look at why you seem to attract circumstances like this.

If members are attacking you maybe your behaviour isn’t the best 🤷🏼‍♂️

My profile is locked because my ex is a psychopath, even had to block my kids. So no not everyone is hiding because they are inauthentic.

Also you love to shame people, why?”

Let’s break this down line by line, because the audacity of this man needs to be seen.

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"A thousand projections in this post."

A smug opener with no substance. A sweeping dismissal. No facts, no inquiry—just an attempt to frame the post as invalid without engaging.

It’s a spiritualized “you’re crazy.”

Not insight. Not wisdom. Just superiority.

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"Maybe look at why you seem to attract circumstances like this."

Ah, here it is—the blame shift.

I was attacked.

But according to Matt?

It’s my fault for attracting it.

I speak truth, people lose it, and suddenly I’m the one who needs healing?

This is manipulation. Gaslighting wrapped in chakra beads.

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"If members are attacking you, maybe your behaviour isn’t the best 🤷🏼‍♂️"

And there’s the knife in the ribs—delivered with a shrug.

He doesn’t know what happened. He wasn’t there.

But he assumes I deserved it.

That’s called cowardice.

That’s spiritual bypassing.

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"My profile is locked because my ex is a psychopath..."

Here comes the trauma deflection.

I wasn’t talking about victims of abuse.

I was talking about inauthentic behavior.

But instead of engaging with the message, he hijacks the post with his personal story so he can play the victim and try to shut me down.

He’s using pain as a shield, and guilt as a weapon.

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"Also you love to shame people, why?"

This is the part where he flips the whole story and plays martyr.

He came in judgmental, made it personal, tried to reframe my entire message, and now he's asking why I shame people?

The manipulation is so obvious, it’s laughable.

I replied with:

> "You're not even close, bud."

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And then he doubles down:

> “Ryan Basford mate I find your energy very much from the wounded masculine. Lots of ego, desperation, forcing, criticism etc.

I would love to be part of the pages you run, in theory they sound great but working with you would be so out of alignment. It’s a shame really. Great ideas but the execution just isn’t there.

I’d love to see you channel the energy you put into everything in a different way. I think you would really take off then.”

Let’s break this second comment down too.

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“Wounded masculine.”

A go-to insult. The spiritual equivalent of calling someone "toxic."

Translation: “You trigger me, so I’ll label you broken.”

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“Lots of ego, desperation, forcing…”

More projection. If you speak with fire, it’s ego. If you stand your ground, it’s forcing. If you don’t bend to be liked? Desperate.

This isn’t spiritual insight. It’s insecurity.

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“In theory your pages sound great…”

The fake compliment. The opening line to the backhanded slap.

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“…but working with you would be so out of alignment.”

Not because I’m doing harm—but because I’m not easily controlled.

It’s spiritual superiority in disguise.

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“Great ideas but the execution isn’t there.”

This is the classic passive-aggressive teardown.

Looks like feedback, sounds like help, but it’s designed to undermine.

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“You’d take off if you just channeled your energy differently.”

There it is—the manipulation.

Be less you.

Water it down.

Tone it down.

Shrink to fit.

No.

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Matt, let me tell you something real:

I’m not here to shrink.

I’m not here to be palatable.

I’m not here to be “the bigger man” if it means staying silent while people like you spin false narratives.

I’m here to build something real.

So let me be clear:

You don’t know the story.

You weren’t in the community.

You didn’t see what I gave, what I took, or what I stood for.

But you came in swinging with judgment, fake concern, and emotional manipulation—pretending to help, but really just trying to put me in my place.

Not anymore.

This post is for every man and woman who’s been shamed into silence under the name of spiritual superiority.

It’s for the leaders who’ve been made out to be villains for standing in truth.

It’s for the ones who are done playing nice to be accepted.

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Because real change doesn’t happen through silence.

It happens through exposure.

Through truth.

Through fire.

The bigger man doesn’t stay quiet.

The bigger man tells the truth—no matter who it makes uncomfortable.

You want real alignment?

It starts with truth.

Even when it’s uncomfortable.

Especially when it is.

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And let’s not pretend this came out of nowhere.

I already removed you from my community, Matt.

You didn’t just magically show up with this behavior—I saw it unfolding in real time.

You were getting triggered over and over again, lashing out in comments, stirring energy that didn’t belong. That’s why you got the boot. You were already showing your colors.

So no wonder you popped up on my post trying to throw shade.

And what’s wild? I showed you kindness. I messaged you. I gave you the benefit of the doubt.

And this is how you respond? With disrespect? With arrogance?

And you think I’m supposed to take spiritual direction from you?

Get real. Give yourself a wake-up call. And move the fuck on.

And let me be even more clear—there was never any opportunity for you to get involved in what I’m doing.

Why would you even think that? Especially after your most recent comment here?

You think I was ever going to give you a chance to walk alongside me in this mission?

Not happening, bro.

And now you try to play it like there was an opportunity—like I somehow missed out?

No. There never was.

The only thing I ever might have done is write a blog about you would you and your partner couldn't even be bothered to respond to. Because you already had your superiority over me. Lmao.

And then you join my group with another profile, even though I already blocked your other one.

Final thought.

And let’s be real—if we keep allowing this kind of behavior, if we keep pretending to play small and just “let it go,” if we keep sweeping this shit under the rug and calling it “being the bigger man,” then what we’re really saying is: “I’m okay with being disrespected.” We’re saying: “I like being treated poorly. I want to be shit on. I want people to attack me, twist my words, and gaslight me, and I’ll just smile and nod and thank them for the lesson.” How the fuck is that gonna get us anywhere? That doesn’t raise the standard—it enforces the behavior. It rewards it. It lets people keep doing it. Playing the bigger man in that way is not noble—it’s enabling. And I’m done enabling it. I’m not here to be walked on and called awakened for it. I’m here to draw the line, speak the truth, and make damn sure this kind of cowardice no longer gets a free pass