There was a time when I believed love was something I had to chase. I thought relationships were about finding the right person, holding on tight, and hoping they wouldn’t slip away.
I poured everything into trying to fix, hold together, and make things work, thinking that if I just gave enough, loved enough, it would all finally fall into place.
But life—and Spirit—had other plans.
Through the highs and the heartbreaks, the passion and the pain, I came to realize something profound: love isn't found in someone else. Love is found within. The relationships we build externally are simply reflections of the one we have with ourselves.

I remember the moment it hit me 7 years ago through the Twin Flame concept. After years of navigating relationships that mirrored my own inner wounds, I finally had to face myself. The anxious-avoidant dance I kept finding myself in wasn’t just happening in my relationships; it was happening within me.
I had one foot in and one foot out—longing for deep connection but fearing what it might require of me. And I know I’m not alone in this.
The truth is, we’ve all been conditioned to think love is something to be earned, something to prove our worth.
But love, real love, isn’t a transaction. It’s not something we perform for or chase after. It’s the foundation we build from within, and only then can we attract relationships that reflect that deep, inner knowing.
You know the love that you seek is literally the love that you give.
So what kind of love are you looking for?
It's a really important question.
When you stop and think about that and you go, *is the love I'm looking for identical to the love I want to receive?*
Is that love identical to the love that I give?
Okay, so think about that. You're looking for love—the same love that you give. You want to be loved how you love. That's difficult.
Everyone loves in a certain particular way, but you can totally find someone so close who actually wants to understand that and learn that about you, or just intuitively, instinctually picks up on that and how to best support you and be there and love you.
So there is that partner, but the point is here: the love you're looking for is the love that you give.
So align to what love is for you. What is love to you?
Write all that down.
Is it, you know, having a foot rub at the end of the night? Is it asking how your day was?
Write it all down. Get super clear on what love is to you and watch how your life starts to unfold. I'll let that be your magic.
This realization didn’t come easy. It came through breaking down, through surrender, and through radical self-honesty. And it’s the very foundation of why I created Trinity and why I pour my heart into this mission every single day.
Trinity isn’t just another dating platform. It’s a space for healing, growth, and connection that begins with you.
It’s built on the idea that love starts when we get honest with ourselves, balance our energies, and step into relationships from a place of wholeness. No more chasing. No more settling for half-hearted connections. It’s about embodying the love we seek and letting the right connections come from that space.
So, if you’re on this journey, if you’re searching for love and connection, know this:
It starts with you.
It starts with the willingness to dive deep, to heal, to break the old patterns, and to step forward in truth and love.
I’ve walked this path, and I’m still walking it. Every step of the way, I’m learning, growing, and becoming more aligned with the love I was searching for all along—within myself.
And I want that for you too.
If you're ready to step into something real, something conscious, and something deeply aligned with who you truly are, Trinity is here for you.
Let's walk this journey together. Not from a place of lack, but from a place of wholeness.
Love isn’t out there. It’s right here, waiting for you to claim it.